Forgive Your Money Mistakes

 

Remembering and regretting money mistakes--instead of forgiving and forgetting--can actually hurt your efforts toward financial improvement.  Anger is not a bad emotion; there are no bad emotions.  However, when anger transitions from a response into an ongoing grudge toward something—or even toward yourself—it can destroy any progress you are trying to make in improving a specific area of your life, particularly around money.  Money mistakes are notoriously enduring in people’s minds, and often they find it difficult to forgive themselves or others for mistakes long past.

The problem is that you can never focus on the good things happening in the present is you’re holding on to anger from things that happened in the past. We don’t have to pretend that what happened was okay, just that it has happened and there is something we are supposed to learn. Once we understand that, we can let it go and move on to new growth opportunities and a deeper sense of personal power around our financial life.

From My Mother

You may think this is an odd place to talk about my mother, but there is a connection. My mother just recently passed away, and I’m remembering many of the things she taught me – some of which were about money.

·         Always buy good shoes.  Your feet are your foundation and they need to last a lifetime. She also thought they should look good!

·         Make it if you can.  It’s less expensive, and you get to be creative and build relationships if you do it with others.

·         Go camping.  It’s a good way to build family memories and is affordable.  

·         Save a little, and live well within your means.

·         Pay cash.

·         Spend only what you have on hand.

·         Take time for people, and always have enough around the house to feed whoever shows up. No need to go out.

·         Be a host - do not entertain

Now that I’m older and wiser I understand what she was talking about.

The Struggle Between Happiness and Money

 

What part of the financial world has the most potential to derail a person’s personal finances?  Is it political or economical?  No . . . I believe that the greatest threat to a person’s financial happiness and well-being is ego. Ego is the habitual and compulsive thought process that goes through everybody's mind continuously.  Left unchecked, this constant ego monologue prevents us from focusing on the present moment, and instead we are caught up in worrying about what happens next.  Or what we want to buy next.

Money is often the perceived stumbling block that prevents us from being totally satisfied with our present reality.  The ego wants things in our life to happen a certain way, and a specific image to be presented.  This leads to the belief that if we get the right things, position and status, we’ll be happy.  It maps out a perfect script for us to follow for the perfect life.  Allowing our ego to take over will never bring us closer to financial happiness or acceptance of financial mistakes.  The ego relies on each of us feeling like the donkey with the carrot attached to the stick just a little bit ahead of him.  The ego forces us to focus on the way things should be, and leaves us constantly dissatisfied with current conditions.  Financial happiness depends on our ability to stay present in the moment.  Rather than obsessing on how things are supposed to go, we instead accept that events are unfolding as they are, and use that as our starting point.

There is no specific thing or position that we need to help define who we are in this world, or help us achieve financial happiness.  The moment we let go, we are freed to explore a more affordable life.

 If you would like to work with Susan on a personal financial assessment contact her at 250-808-3214 or at smkbusinessservices@live.ca

Just Some Ramblings Part 2

Still on the topic of spring

Something else we can do in the Spring is go through our closet, shed or basement, giving us the perfect opportunity to discard those items we no longer use.  I create three piles: the first for items I wish to keep, the second for items going to the consignment store or for resale, and the third for those items that will go to charity.  If I have not used an item during the previous 12 months or more, there is little chance I will use it again.  Ridding ourselves of items we no longer use gives us a sense of freedom, as well as taking up less storage space.  As a society, we generally keep and store far too much.  Consider the boom in self-storage units, despite having larger houses.   After I have completed the sorting, I make a list of necessary items to complete my wardrobe, household supplies or gardening needs.   I take my list shopping with me and stick to it, starting at consignment or second hand stores, and then moving on to regular retail for the items that I could not find previously.  This will keep more money in my pocket, and if I sell some things this will improve my cash flow. 

If you are a gardener, growing your own fruit and vegetables is a great help for your pocketbook.  If you have not planted a garden before, you may want to consider starting a small one in your backyard.  If you don’t have a backyard, try planting fresh herbs, small tomatoes and greens in plant boxes on your deck.  The process of gardening is inexpensive, gives you some exercise, and rewards you with fresh produce.  The greatest part of gardening is sharing produce with your friends, and storing it to enjoy over the winter months.  The cost of starting a garden is minimal and the rewards are great. 

Both of these ideas help to save money, and reduce waste.

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Just Some Rambling

I have been thinking about the changes that come with Spring: the days are longer, birds start to sing again, and new growth is everywhere.  Together with the New Year, this is a common time to make changes in our life, so I’ve put together some ideas on how you might  save a penny or two.  By saving these pennies, we can have more cash in our pockets, and feel richer, less stressed, and able to meet our financial obligations.

When it comes to personal taxes, the best place to be is at zero.  We should not be excited when we get a refund; it means that someone has held your money, has not paid you any interest, plus you’ve lost all access to that money.  If you are self-employed, the goal is to put away approximately 25% of gross income for both HST remittance and personal taxes.  If you’re an employee, you want the employer to take off just the right amount of money.  You can go to your employer and have the deduction changed, usually by completing some simple paperwork.  A zero balance on our taxes keeps as much cash in our pockets as possible, without the shock of owing the government at year end.

With spring already here and summer just around the corner, consider the great outdoors rather than a membership at a local gym.  There are probably walking trails, running tracks and bike trails within easy reach, and even sidewalks just outside your doors.  Most of these activities require only a quality pair of shoes and your time.  To quote a friend, “air and water are mostly free so take advantage of them”.    Your local community center is usually less expensive than a private club and can be an alternative for those who like to be inside as well this can be a great option for the winter.

Watch for my next blog and more money saving ideas.

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